“If the meaning of your life unfolds to you every day, in simplicity and wonder, you have achieved success – which means, in a profound way, that every baby is born a success.” – Deepak Chopra
Parenting is challenging work, full of choices to make each and every day. If you are anything like me, all the theories and methods out there can be really confusing. However, there’s one thing I know for sure – above all else, our children need to be really seen, heard, and accepted for who they are. Somewhere along the way, I began to ask: how can we really do that with all of our own junk getting in the way?! I saw in my own parenting my lack of patience interfering with my desire to instill in my kids the confidence to complete their own tasks. I saw myself trying to control each decision unconsciously believing that my way was better and found myself struggling through bath time, getting dressed and ready in the mornings, and meal times. I began to research different approaches, and heard about the book “The Conscious Parent” by Dr. Shefali Tsabary. Having done a lot of work with my own coach about conscious living, this was fascinating, but I couldn’t read it all at once. I knew I had some work to do first on myself, and actually stalled in reading it after the first chapter for several months, before going back and finishing it. Inspired by the book, I am letting go of having all the answers and instead looking at my parenting as a chance to guide my children to learn about how life works while allowing the space to be who they are.
Our children come into the world bestowing for us life lessons. If we are mindful enough to pay attention, our children hold up little mirrors, offering opportunities for self-reflection, discovery and awareness that can evoke personal transformation, making us better citizens of the world, and more joyful and fulfilled. I believe if we are willing to meet them where they are, to guide rather than “mold” them, and be willing to admit imperfection, that we can be the parent they need us to be.
What do you most want your children to know and learn? What impact do you want to make in their lives and that of others? What are you ready to claim for yourself?